When you feel that everything falls apart all around you, or you feel hopeless, have you analyzed what’s wrong or have you just moved on thinking it’s better to go with the flow. If a problem heads your way, have you solved it? Is there something you want to do but are not doing anymore, or that you are missing something in your life, the charisma you have always wanted and maybe even envied in others. If you answer these questions in the negative, go ahead and try this useful exercise.
1) Look back and think about when you were the happiest
When did you thrive the most in your life? Looking back, there must have been key joyous moments in your life: your time growing up with Family; traveling to another country; dancing all night in a disco with friends; participating in school’s extra curricular activities? Notice a couple of themes here? Friends, family and travel.
2) Open your eyes and pay close attention to what goes by
Instead of automatically just moving through each day, be on the lookout for things that light you up, or spark an interest. What movies capture your interest or books move you the most? What would you love to try?
3) Notice what makes you irritated or upset
What do you resent the most in your life? If you’re having a particularly grumpy day, what set you off? What’s most likely to put you in a bad mood? If you find yourself feeling annoyed or jealous of something that someone else is doing, ask yourself why. Are they doing something you want to do? Are they preventing you from doing something you need to do? Emotions are great signposts if you’re willing to do the digging to find out what they’re really about.
Have you ever felt that you feel a deep frustration after a day’s work or even on getting back from vacation even though you have everything you wanted? Thinking back helps in a way that surprises us about what is really bothering us.
4) Keep a Note and write often
Writing about your “feelings” might seem lame but go ahead and give it a try. The real you will find the voice and it will turn your life upside down and might even make you happier. Writing sometimes brings forth dormant thoughts.
5) Watch the signs from your body
Your body will tell you what resonates most with the real you, and when you’ve gone off your path or are betraying yourself. What makes you feel lighter and full of energy? What leaves you feeling drained? What makes you laugh? What makes you cry? (in a good way, and in a bad way) Pay attention to these physical clues – they will let you know when you’re getting closer to, or farther away from, yourself. Find some time each day to breathe deep and meditate on anything that might be bothering you. Work to resolve issues that are in your control and stop thinking about those that you cannot do anything about.
Start doing more of those things that you’ve noticed move you, make you feel alive again, or give you more energy. Begin to avoid or change things that drain you, tense you up, or deaden your spirit. Over time, you’ll be more and more what you thought you always were or meant to be. Grab that umbrella and fly away.
Life is waiting for you !!!